My daughter has 2 boys with her boyfriend.Both cant keep a job. And both smoke dope.In the last 3 years they moved in with us 6 times .If sh...

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My daughter has 2 boys with her boyfriend.Both cant keep a job. And both smoke dope.In the last 3 years they moved in with us 6 times .If she (my daughter) dont get her way , she moves back out . They ben moving from friends houses . Those boys dont have a stable home. Do to my health I just cant handle the drama. We offered to take the boys untill they get a stable inviroment for the boys , wich they refused. we in the peocess to move from Texas to Colorado. Im afraid if I call CPS the boys going to be put somewhere else . We dont have any money, so we dont know what to do. And they use the boys to make us feel guilty for not letting them stay at our house. Please help. Thank you

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You may be what is called an "enabler."

If your daughter is an adult, she should learn that actions have consequences. In fact, she should have learned that a long time ago.

Don't let her move back in, ever, unless you also get her to sign your List of Rules, which is:

1. No illegal drugs. No exceptions.

2. Get a job, and keep it.

3. Pay rent - $75 per week.

4. Church every Sunday morning. No excuses.

5. Go talk to the Attorney General about establishing a child support order for the children. To contact them via email: [email protected]/* */

6. If you get pregnant again, you're OUT.